Sunday, September 16, 2012
If you are want advice on dating women, then this post hopefully will give you a few courses of action. When you are successful with women on a first date, they will likely be open for other dates, no matter what your financial position is or how you look. There is one key success factor, and that is charm, charm, charm. Although there is such a thing as too flattering, girls will tend to forgive that. There is however, a few things you should not do such as:
1) Do not be too subservient such as
a. Making her feel so important that you lower your status to be less than hers. If you are praising her or giving her a complement, do it jokingly. You will achieve the complement yet still appearing to be a person of substance and stature.
b. Asking her to compare you with other guys – on a first date you will look like less because of the lack of history Do not force this comparison early; it is too soon to get into this depth of conversation.
c. Ceding control of the date. Questions should not be open ended. If you are not sure of where she would like to go, then give her short list of things to do next. If she is not happy with any of them, then you have have not done sufficient research as to what her needs are. You have screwed up, you deserve to be dumped. (On subsequent dates, you can ask for ideas, but on a first date you should appear to be in charge, well planned, but flexible).
2) The next fault is trying to impress her excessively. Do not crow and breast beat, and do not say how much money you make. Just be a interested partner, listen to her, and pay the tab. Date one is female centric, it is not about you. If she wants to know more about you, then answer them in something more than one word answers, but avoid excessive rhetoric, or else you are in the danger zone of saying too much and coming across as boasting or bragging.
3) Do not put her on a pedestal. That advice is more important if the woman is beautiful. Very pretty women are used to being on a pedestal. Did you ever notice how often that really attractive women are dating hoodlums? That is because hoods treat them normally and they feel like they are being appreciated for what they are. In many cases the bad boys are abusive, but they like that because at least the bum is treating them differently than everyone else does. Nothing is more tiring to sexy women as getting hit on – they have heard it all before. The better approach is to just ask them something about themselves, such as what they are doing, where they work, etc.
4) Being exclusive too soon in a relationship. both of you should be initially playing the field. If you seem too willing to commit exclusively, you will seem needy and diminished in their eyes. No woman wants to be dating a grasping loser. You have to come across as successful in relationships, and therefore more interesting in her eyes.
If you are having trouble locating a suitable partner, then try the following pages to help you zero in on the type of woman that you desire:
Top Ten Dating
Top 100 Dating
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